Marry the Person

Your spirits are high!  You've received the proposal of a lifetime and it's time to plan the wedding.  Don't make the same mistake others have made.  Plan for the marriage more than one glorious day.  We all love a good wedding, but the truth is that a lifetime of wedded bliss is way more important.

You need to know where you stand, as well as the ideas you and your fiancé have regarding spouses.  Many men and women possess a cookie cutter version of what it means to be a wife or husband specifically.  This image needs to be discussed because it existed long before the two of you met.  Find out if these views match and if they're realistic.  Ask your mate if you fit their mental picture of wife or husband.

This is the time to have thorough talks and question everything. Religious institutions offer pre-marital counseling, but at the very least make a list of things to discuss.  Your conversations should include everything from the children you don't have and their religion to elder parents moving in out of possible necessity.  Be creative. People feel like they are getting married with unconditional love, while most actually have very real conditions.  You need to know them before the walk down the aisle or a trip to the divorce lawyer.


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